I have noticed that people generally assume the best about quiet people. It's a good strategy. Most people who are eager to make a good impression try to contribute a lot in social settings, you know...really yuck it up, press the flesh, swap stories, etc...but if they would just be quiet, smile a lot, and give the impression of listening (or better yet actually listen), people would most likely arrive at far more flattering conclusions about who they are then they could have crafted through their own efforts. In my experience, people often interpret being quiet as thoughtful introspection, a deferential/humble nature, or calm self-assurance.
A quiet person may, in fact, be a shallow narcissist, or socially retarded, or a brooding anti-social, but most people will tend to fill in the blanks with positive attributes until evidence to the contrary arises.
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"A fool even when he is silent, is counted wise."
It's in proverbs somewhere.....
Oh to be wise enough to be a silent fool!
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